does goal actually matter or is it forum lore at this point
Question in the title, detail here: does goal actually matter or is it forum lore at this point.
Nobody noticed for months. Then several people noticed in the same fortnight, which was strange and quite nice.
Why this board is text only, since new members ask every week.
A photograph invites comparison on things nobody can control — lighting, posture, where you carry weight, what you looked like before any of this. Text invites description of what changed for you: the jacket, the stairs, the measurement, the month it took.
The result is a board where the posts are about people’s actual experience rather than about images, and where nobody is competing on the wrong axis. It was a deliberate choice, it has been challenged periodically, and every time it has been kept.
The boring middle lasted the longest and it is the part I am most proud of.
Screenshot none of this. Read the whole thread, including the parts where I am told I am wrong.
best — the order this archive was captured in
Nothing on this board is medical advice, and rate, target and method are questions for somebody who knows your history.
Careful — that reads as advice about what someone else should do, and this board is for describing your own.
Did the clothes change before the number did for you too?
Small correction, kindly meant: that is a range rather than a regain. Weight moves day to day in everybody.
Small correction, kindly meant: that is a range rather than a regain.
Agreed — measurements over photographs, every time, for anybody trying to actually track something.
Stopped reading the fastest posts here for a month and my mood improved considerably.
On the goal weight you set in week one.
You chose it with the least information you will ever have about how this feels, what is sustainable, and what your body does at different points. Revising it is not moving the goalposts; it is updating a prediction, which is what you are supposed to do with predictions.
Several of the longest-standing members here have revised theirs more than once, in both directions, and describe the revision as the point at which the whole thing became manageable. What the number should be is a conversation with somebody who knows your history — but that it is allowed to change is something this board can tell you.
say what changed for you, not what should change for others
What are you actually celebrating today? Genuine question.
Stalled for 21 weeks and measured my waist out of stubbornness. It had moved. The scale had not.
Left up. It is a milestone post with a timeframe attached, which is all we ask.
celebrate the boring milestones, they are the durable ones
Is the goal you set at the start still the goal?
What to measure if you want to stay sane through the flat parts.
Weight, under consistent conditions, no more than weekly. Waist, monthly — it frequently keeps moving when the scale does not. And one non-scale thing a week written down: a garment, a staircase, a distance, an ordinary task that got easier.
A year of those three is a far better record than a year of daily weights, and reading the third column back is the part that actually means something. The daily number is noise dressed up as information, and it has ruined more months on this board than any plateau.
a plateau is not a failure and it is not a personality
Push back on the goal number. You chose it before you knew what any of this felt like.
Rate of change is not a virtue. Slower trajectories are as durable as fast ones and are considerably better represented on this board than the front page suggests.
22kg over 9 months and honestly the most useful marker was that stairs stopped being a decision.
the clothes change before the number does
What was the non-scale thing that told you first?
the middle is the part nobody posts and everybody lives in
the timeframe matters as much as the number
How long was the stall before it moved?
waist is the measurement that keeps moving during a scale stall
My goal weight at week one was a number I made up. I have revised it twice since and I am happier for it.
The first thing I noticed was a jacket doing up. The scale had been flat for three weeks at that point.
comparison is the thief of everything on a board like this
Wrote down one non-scale thing every week. Reading a year of those back was more affecting than any number.
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